The number of divorces is increasing incredibly nowadays.But when some study is made about this topic, people don´t take seriously the point of view of children involved in the situation. Kids suffer maybe even more than adults, and they have to receive attention in order not to have problems in the future, either with their parents or with any relationship.
Having divorced parents is traumatic if you take into account shocking breakups. If children see their moms and dads having arguments and fights, it makes them think that all relationships can be like that. And kids always take the side of one of them, which harms the contact with the other parent. Everything that has been told about one of the parents by the other one can influence the child to think likewise.
On the other hand, with peaceful breakups, children suffer less. Of course they´ll have some problems with the new organization of the family, but they´ll get used and even like it. If you have two families, you get two gifts on your birthday, you have two possibilities to have fun, you can have more brothers and sisters, and if you need your folks, both of them will be there for you.
Concluding, having divorced parents can be a good thing. Nobody wants parents that are fighting all the time, but together not to traumatize the kids. A bad thing is to have parents who can´t get along well, divorced or not, and show it to their children. The best way to deal with this family issue is taking divorce as something that can be good to everybody, and giving your kids the love they deserve, no matter what.
Tuanny Honesko is the responsible for this great article over such a difficult issue to cover. She is a PET 1 student.
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